Black Men Expect Too Much From Black Women

I want to share my observation with Black women. I've come to the conclusion that some Black men expect far too much from Black women. Way more than they are willing to give themselves. This is not all men, but a lagre percent. The problem stems from the idea that Black women are expected to fill many roles. They are expected to be a homemaker, breadwinner, lover, counselor, be mentally advanced, but not so advanced that it makes men uncomfortable. They are also expected to understand men's needs and to be able to find an appropriate way of approching them about it without harming men's egos. All in a day's work right? Come on Fellas really? I guess it depends on the black man and what he is willing to give. Unfortunately there are Black men who feel a sense of undeserved entitlement. They that they should be able to do minimal and receive the maximum.

Most men do not think they have to be loyal, work hard in a relationship, give all of themselves to a woman or even share any real emotional connection with her. The funny thing is while they indulge in the feelings of being entitled they also are subject to the media/ slave mentality that convinces them that black women are subpar. Many men roll with it and this leads them to compare Black women to women of other races and place these other women on pedestals. When Black women do not measure up to men ideas of physical beauty or what they perceive a woman of worth should be it only pushes them away more, So not only do Black men enter into situations with women with unrealistic and sometimes self-centenerd expectations, Black men also have preconditioned judgments towards Black women VS women of other cultures.

What they do not understand is that it's a trick. Ideologies like these were put in place to futher tear the Black family unit apart. The idea that man should be able to give when he decides he wants to give but expect that his woman should come to him with open heart and mind only places more strain between Black men and women. Not to mention it is extremely self-centered and child like. This unbalanced relationship causes women to feel unappreciated and yearn for reciprocity. Once the need for reciprocity is not filled she becomes confused. Most women begin to think "what is it that she is doing wrong?" " why am I not good enough?" Then the ultimate emotions anger and resentment. Thinking that what she gave was obviously never good enough and she was never reciprocated and often deemed to be 2nd best. It becomes a vicious cycle for many.

I have no answer but this I do know. Possibly solving this would be that the level of self-centeredness from Black men has to decrease. Fellas you can not expect so much and give so little. We must put our egos at bay. 2nd, Black people as a whole allow media to influence how we interact with each other entirely too much. Some where down the line we have allowed what they deemed to be beautiful and precious to influence how we treat each other and our relationships with one another.
This is just my observation about an issue between Black men and women that is going on way too long at this rate will still exist long after I am gone if we don't get it together.