Ten Things Intelligent Black Men Love About Women Other Than Looks

Yes, ladies … black men are like other men in that we are simple creatures. We see with the eyes and are impacted by your physical being first. You were created in such a way as to be attractive to us.

But once we get past the initial physical attraction, there are attributes and intangibles that we cannot see with the naked eye — characteristics which are far more important — that help to create those lasting emotional bonds. Intelligent men discern these things in you and make it a priority to honor and protect it.

Here are the 10 things that smart black men love about and find attractive in women outside of your physical composition.

Confidence: They don’t need to proclaim it from center stage at Summer Jam. They don’t need to offer unsolicited criticism and judgments about what others are doing, what they’re wearing, or who they’re with. Confident people don’t snoop or question every opposite sex friend. Confident people embrace both their strengths and weaknesses. They’re concerned with controlling what’s in their power, not what’s outside of it. That’s sexy.

Intelligence: Intelligence is not just based on scholastic achievement. Being able to engage in a wide variety of conversations that don’t center on yourself is a very attractive quality and makes you seem worldly and concerned about others. That is sexy in and of itself.

Faith: Don’t let the small-minded fool you. Men are attracted to a woman who is grounded in spirituality and uses faith as a moral compass to guide her.

Inspiring: Women who are classy, optimistic and can inspire others are viewed like gold. Every encounter this reporter has had with the eminent Susan L. Taylor, who is a prime example, has left me awed and humbled.

Passion: Passion isn’t only infectious, it’s sexy. Men love hearing women speak passionately about the things and people they love (unless it’s about the ex they haven’t gotten over) and their dreams. Passion inspires.

Sense of Humor:  Women who lough the laugh, who possess sharp wit and can find humor in the most mundane or troubling of circumstances are, like the women who inspire, become the superstars of offices and are favorites of families and friends. This is an invaluable intangible that men find irresistible. 

Generosity: Want to attract a man and inspire love from him? Be the opposite of Kim Kardashian and be generous with your time, resources and efforts. This is tricky, however, because women must be discerning about who she is giving of herself to.

Nurturing: Offering kind words for no reason. Proving a compliment on the regular. Giving a back rub without being asked. Helping your man and others without having to receive credit. Building up the man when others question or impugn him. Trust and believe that a man will never forget it.

Voice: We love your voice, the textures, the inflections (when you’re not angry) and the the things you have to say and, best of all, the way you say it.

Purity: We love the wholesomeness that many sisters exhibit, along with the fact that many can discern redeemable qualities in even the most repellent people.